What's happening
You haven't changed. Your hormones are loud right now.
The classic story isn't a slow decline — it's a sudden ambush. A wave of panic at a stoplight. A 30-second irritation that lasts the rest of the day. A blank spot mid-sentence on a word you've used since college. None of that is dementia, and none of it is who you actually are. It's a hormone-and-neurotransmitter problem.
Estrogen sits upstream of serotonin (mood), dopamine (motivation and focus), and norepinephrine (alertness). When estradiol swings wildly through perimenopause, those three neurotransmitters swing with it. The brain you've had for 40 years suddenly has unstable inputs.
On top of that, broken sleep raises cortisol, lowers GABA, and adds an anxiety load on a brain that's already destabilized. That's why mood, sleep, and brain fog usually arrive together — and why fixing one usually helps all three.